False Positives: Chapter Twelve
If is NEVER okay to abuse a group of people. So why are so many people engaged in this as if it is? This is a bubble problem
You know ~ living in your own bubble, never realizing the bubble issues of others ~ never realizing the world as a whole unit.
Here are just a few examples ~ I intentionally pulled these stories from a variety of fields.
We are all still thinking of ourselves first. Or, is it that we believe that we are justified in ripping one group apart in order to save the grouping of others?
The planes ~ are we all going mad?
Have you ever watched the YouTube clips of people acting poorly on a plane? My Sunday was spent falling down a YouTube rabbit hole. :/ Dumb. I know better.
All the people around the one losing it (and usually drunk) whip out their phones. The people are sometimes being outrageous and other times are guilty of minor offenses.
Why don’t airports stop serving alcohol? It would be an easy fix. It’s because they would lose a lot … a LOT of money.
I’ve seen clips where other passengers are sticking up for the targeting passenger. One woman was kicked off the plane (rudely so) because her toddler with a neurodivergent diagnosis, was sending out excited shouts, to which another passenger complained.
What sort of person will kvetch about a special needs baby because she is excited? I’m not answering that. In public. My no answer, is an answer.
If that’s all we have to go on, then nobody would want to fly anymore.
If all we knew about the world was what we were shown on social media, or television, we’d all be turning our homes into bunkers and live like we were in ancient tribes.
The causes and righteous indignation
Then there is a giant movement for one people by demographic, who are completely content in denigrating another demographic as a collective because some of that tribe are being awful. Then again, some of the first tribe are also awful.
- *for those reading this who are trying to assume what is written, or find yourselves quickly defending, without fully knowing … that’s a perfect example of this entire post**
- NOT knowing, we dive headfirst into assuming.
We are being shown the ‘awful’ state of the world en masse, and yet, we know that we are. So?
Why all the false positivity about how we have so quickly turned against entire demographics as a whole?
Which btw, is very dangerous.
The ‘positive’ people as a whole won’t even talk about the problems of the world. The ‘negative’ people as a whole won’t even talk about the goodness of the world.
Then there are some who quietly minding their own business, living their lives and doing the best they can.
This third group? They are the majority.
The truth of the world right now, besides the war, the famine, the other horses of the apocalypse the media would have us believe, is that nobody is a single thing.
Most people in their real lives, are simply trying to get along.
Many people are strongly influenced by what we are absorbing, but also realize that it’s just … scandalous entertainment.
IF it’s your job to ONLY pay attention to the healthy, happy positives in the world, does that contribute to helping others?
The sad part is no.
It helps to contribute to those who don’t really need help.
The people who really need help, have so many real world issues to take on, that they struggle to stay happy, healthy and positive.
This is where the discord lives.
The positivity movement
Many of those who are in the positivity business have NO idea what true suffering is like to live with. They don’t have a personal reference. Well, not true. Some of them do. But truly, how many truly suffering people in poverty who have lived in trauma, end up in an Ivy League school with no resources, no support system and no idea what that life is like?
Maybe one or two, but they are also walking around with a spotlight on them, as the resident “motivator” ~ I’m a bit cynical about that concept of helping people, but then treating them like your poster child.
Altruism is never not selfish. The price we pay for helping others or being helped by others.
- We all know that chaos loves company.
- We all know that drama and trauma sells, and it’s too easy to lean into it.
- Some of us know that to pull yourself out of a traumatic, dramatic, hard life, people are extraordinary beyond resilient. They have to do battle with both sides. There is a space between.
In that space, we are given the opportunity to NOT be unaware of the things others want us to see, or believe or be.
The skin care/beauty industry ~ In review
Here’s the other part. Yesterday, I was on YouTube, scrolling for music to write by. I keep seeing tutorials for make up. (I think the world is telling me something) :)
There were a lot of YouTube celebrities who review other people’s work ~ yeah, that’s a thing ~ who were all showing Jessica Alba’s nighttime beauty routine and then they were reviewing it.
One claimed to not know who Jessica Alba was, but this YouTuber has over a million followers AND she’s in the beauty business! Um, Jessica Alba is the original beautiful actor turned mega mogul who created her own products and owns a billion dollar company.
Even I know that! ~ me ... The person who pays no attention to that industry (happily so).
How does one get to be 1.5 million followers deep but not know one of the most significant names in their own industry?
Could it be … she’s part of the bubble problem? Issue if the world problem is a problem, which is no problem.
See, Alba created an actual, tangible product. She invested her money, time and attention to the creation of that tangible product, then, actively runs the company. She’s iconic. Young, but iconic.
Coat tails and 2nd hand chic.
The reviewer is part of the trend of following one demographic but not knowing about the other. In this case, it’s age related.
I’m old school. I’m a fan of knowing the whole picture, before making any assumptions.
If I’m on here or any of my platforms kvetching about a social issue or cultural trend, it’s because I did my homework.
I know! I know nothing about the ingredients of beauty products. I also know that for the most part, you can head to your local organic farmers market and make your own for a 1/3 or more of the price. Better yet, grow your own.
I also know the cost of being in a group can sometimes be too high.
One of my favorite quotes actually comes from Emma Watson.
“Don’t be afraid to NOT like what everyone else pretends to love”
That about sums it up.
Don’t believe everything you read, hear or say.
There is always more to learn.
Pop your bubble ~ see the world ~ listen to others.
K. Aren Henry, @InkHoneyPub @happinessnoir
p.s… I did do my sensitivity homework ~ two things ~
- There is nothing wrong with enterprise, but be willing to be wrong or acknowledge a mistake.
- The word, ‘tribe’ is not exclusive to any one culture or people. I did check. In case you were offended by the use of the word.