False Positives: Chapter Fifteen
It’s been … a …. WEEK ~ two weeks ~ stress, trauma, shock, which are all negative, so much toxic, sad, strongly emotional events in a short period of time.
Today’s Writing is ALL about Awareness ~ #RescueCat, Piper wants
How do we handle that? The Stress of Violence?
Especially after we can simply SEE war in real time ~ something that once upon a time, was kept away from the eyes of private citizens. Now? Turn on Tik Tok, Instagram or any of the others.
My grandfather had “Shell Shock” for years after WWII was over. He wouldn’t talk about it, because ~ we’re guessing he didn’t want to upset people. They were private people.
Anyone who lived under the roof of domestic violence knows what trauma feels like.
Anyone who has ever been houseless, knows what trauma feels like.
All people who have lived under the threat of bodily injury if they dare to live their authentic ‘freedom’ ~ as is a right, (under a democracy)
In truth, people who have survived or live with trauma as part of their human experience across their lifespan, are going to be people who see the world through a different lens.
This seems to upset a great deal of people who are profiting from the “positive’ perception of the world.
For those who have suffered because of the willful ignorance of others who have no idea what if FEELS like to have suffered, I’m so sorry.
The good news is, there are people out here in every industry who know how to work from a trauma informed care.
There are those of us who are speaking up and speaking out about how we are all being called to take those rose colored glasses off so we can see the reality of the gaslighting and damage those “think positive thoughts” messages are doing to those who simply can’t.
Every time I see a meme that tells people that it’s their responsibility to be happy, disregarding their brain chemistry, childhood experiences, or cultural norms, I just wonder how my grandfather would have responded if I had said,
“I know you were stationed in Hawaii during WWII Grandpa, but if you only thought more positively about it, or saw the good in the life lesson…”
I’m pretty sure that not only would I have instantly devalued, disrespected and disregarded his experience, but I would have shown my utter lack of empathy and compassion toward whatever it was that lived as a ghost in his memories.
Mental toughness doesn’t have to be positive all the time.
Resting from the chaos of trauma needs to be debunked as a reward for hard work.
We need to change the entire paradigm to include:
- Emotional Intelligence
- Civil Awareness
- Respect for the experiences of others.
- If you don’t know, don’t offer what works for you, since you don’t know what will work for others.
- Stop expecting people to be just like you, in order to understand or value them.
- Cultural understanding. It’s not hard to learn about other cultures instead of squeezing them into your own.
- Teach children from pre-school on, that there are other ways to live in this world.
- Stop War. Hard stop. Stop War. There is no place for it in this 2022 world.
How do we handle stress and anxiety?
Expect respect ~ it will manifest.
Those boundaries that are sometimes hard to put up?
Put them up anyway.
Don’t wait half a century to realize that you don’t have any boundaries so others will walk all over you, like I did.
This new version of my reality in this world is one that wears clear glasses, so I know what I’m seeing in real time.
When I was living with PTSD after a couple of years of total mayhem in my life, I could not have handled all that is going on today.
I wasn’t able to stand next to a gaggle of soccer moms who lived to gossip about me and others, they deemed less worthy. Let alone, see the dead bodies of babies who are being murdered by a greedy dictator who wants the land they were born to.
Am I furious?
Am I going to look away from the images, so I can go about sipping my Latte or taking a ride on the Blue Ridge Parkway in peace?
The #1 thing that is vital to the health and well-being of our world is,
Do what you know is best in the moment. Keep love in your heart, but if you can, get out there and make life a little bit easier by simply being kind.
YOU don’t have to be “positive” in order to be kind.
Some of the lovliest people I know are also very grouchy but have generous hearts. Some of the most toxic, and dangerous are those out there charming the pants off of the entire world.
Something to think about.
OH ~ back to the original question, “How do we handle anger?” ~ Learn about the cycles of anger and your own innate ability to diffuse it so it doesn’t explode. In other words, know yourself better than anyone else.
You’d think that was to be assumed. It’s not. It takes work.